coaching: fetish

While portrayed as a perversion, fetish is a normal human response to a given set of circumstances. That's why they arise so often that they become stereotypical: the vision of the dominant woman in black leather wielding a whip and in high heel thigh boots didn’t come about because a few people suffered some unusual perversion. It came about because lots of men had the same problem with their expected dominant role in sex. They want to take a submissive role and so need a reason for the woman, often physically smaller and weaker, to be dominant. Hence the aggressive and sinister dominatrix.

For some, fetish features so early in their lives that there has to be a possibility that it is latent, almost a form of sexuality in itself. Or maybe some are more pre-disposed to it than others, and it will show very early on. But happen it does, and it is not easily dispelled. Many embrace it and enjoy a lifestyle based around it. For those who do not or cannot embrace it, fetish can start to invade life as the unrequited fantasies become more and more insistent.

Fetish can become a destructive force if not dealt with positively. For some, because it is real and no less curable than homosexuality it is best to embrace it and enjoy it. For others, because they have partners or perhaps sensitive jobs, it is best to try to alleviate the problems while not engaging in the fetish world. If you suffer from such issues, the chance to talk openly about it can help tremendously. I can help you through some of the confusion, can give you a better perspective on it, and take you along a path of either embrace or alleviation.