Being submissive is a natural reaction to a set of circumstances around your character and experiences in life. It may be an innate need to serve or it may be the greater comfort and confidence in life and yourself if you have boundaries held by another, more dominant person. The fantasies that arise around submission become obsessive and that leads to frustration and an inability to take on life's challenges. By being able to discuss your submission, fantasies and desires openly, many of the frustrations will subside. Through coaching a positive approach can then be made, either to alleviate the problems or to embrace the submissiveness.

Stuck in a vanilla relationship with a partner who doesn't understand or expresses disgust: by the time you're in a sex-free zone, it's time to fight to avoid a long term stand off or a break up. Having your partner become your Dominant is often a long standing dream: it can happen, but most submissives approach it the wrong way. There is a positive approach that can be made, and it's not by pushing 'How To Be A Mistress' under her nose, nor is it by becoming increasingly submissive before her and hoping she enjoys the servile attention.

Seeking professional Domination is often used a stop gap, a way of at least relieving frustration. Sometimes the chance to submit and live out some of those fantasies may be worth more than therapy. But its expensive, it won't necessarily fulfil your needs and tends itself to become an obsessive behaviour. Life coaching or therapy, with a dominant edge if it helps can help with all these issues, by removing the fear and confusion, by giving you practical ways forward and by supporting the steps you need to take.